My opinion and nothing else, hope it doesnt offend anyone =(
I heard a story from a friend today...which the story goes on for half an hour...
It wasn't boring. and it is kind of a lesson to ppl outside this world...that person is telling me about a story and the experience, which i have never experience before which when i hear about it i was very angry about the person involved...if hitting people is not wrong in this world, i will promise i will give the one who hurts u a good smack and wake that person up from what she has done to my friend. Maybe its me who have never know what does the real world look like,maybe the world is always cruel to treat good people like that....
After hearing one side of the story, a lot of things have gone through my mind...
oh well how shd i start...
1st, love means affection to a someone....a lot of people find it real hard to say that word to the person he or she likes...it is kind of a mixed feeling inside someone...which is not easy to understand or wat-so-ever...and once you started to love a someone and devote ur life to be with that someone, make sure u do it well.
2nd, to love someone is to work hard, hence both parties should work hard to maintain a good relationship. homework has to be done by both parties. if there is only one person who does the homework then the relationship will not be built and be maintained. and if that persist for long, it will cause a lot of unecessary things to happen.
But i wonder what if both parties does the homework? then why does the word seperation exists?
3rd, when u have ald love that speacial someone of yours, i think that means putting on all ur trust on that speacial someone. you will have to trust that person, and the person has to trust you too. trust is one of the important part to built up a good future, a good relationship. Trust is the key to all harmony in this world. Trust is particularly important in a relationship. Just imagine living with a person which u have never trust. u will have nightmares, u will never live well. u live with fear. with regret. with hatred. with disappointment.
4th. every problem has its solution. sometimes it seems that some problems are difficult to solve and seems like it is the end of the world. yea i have to admit sometimes there are problems that are quite impossible to solve, it's like the problem is until the "unsolvable" stage. But 1st things that needs to be realised, why is there problems? problems are almost everytime caused by humans. Therefore, whoever started the problem is the only one who has the most power to solve it. Problems are most probably cause by human error and if that particular person does not want to fix the error then that means the problem will never be solved. However there might be a small amount of problem which is not caused by human...there might but i dont know...
therefore i have something to say to that person who has hurt my friend(s) so much...
If you want to love a someone, make sure that you dont hurt that someone that u love and loves you. Remember, to love someone, u have to make sure that that person that you love will be happy, will get the love that he/she should get. you dont need much, just some words or actions that show that you care is more than enough for that person. Trust, care is important in a relationship. Only if you can give a person ur everything and readily sacrifice for that someone, or else dont bother to start to love that person. because if there is no chance that u can sacrifice urself for that person that you love, you are not only wasting that person's time, but u are also wasting their energy, their effort on you. And the worst thing is by doing this you have hurt that person that loves you.... that is what i call selfish and unreasonable...
And remember do not ever ever cheat on the person that loves you. By doing that you are hurting that person more. Imagine the impact on the person when he/she realises that you have cheated on them for so long when they have put their complete trust on you. Dont be so selfish to hurt ppl around you. This is not the way to live a good life in the future. By cheating and cheating, it will not bring you to anywhere except misery and sadness. there is no point to love a someone if what you are doing is planning to cheat on the person non-stop.
To the person involved, when i hear the story from my friend, i have to say, i feel very angry about what you have done. We can see how much time and energy that person has spend on you. I feel that it is so not worth it for that person to treat you that well after what you have done to that person.
As a friend for that person, i feel that what you have done is not reasonable at all. therefore, i will hope that you will not do the same to others in the future. Maybe the situation now is very difficult to save, but i wish that in the future, you will learn the lesson and learn to change,
And to my friend(s),
I am not a good counselor. I never know how to solve problems and console people. i was too afraid to say anything. All i can do is to tell you that watever that happens you still have friends around you. yes, you might look down at me because of various reasons ie i dont really know how it feels or wat-so-ever. but i have to say, if i can i will help. But one again, i am not a good counselor and i dont know what i shd to to make you feel better. maybe its me that cannot understand you. Maybe i am not the right person for u to tell and sought comfort coz i dont know how to express. I am not good in expressing in actions. i cant express things verbally. all i can do is write and write and write and i am sure that one day you will read this and know what i am trying to say and do.
It wasn't boring. and it is kind of a lesson to ppl outside this world...that person is telling me about a story and the experience, which i have never experience before which when i hear about it i was very angry about the person involved...if hitting people is not wrong in this world, i will promise i will give the one who hurts u a good smack and wake that person up from what she has done to my friend. Maybe its me who have never know what does the real world look like,maybe the world is always cruel to treat good people like that....
After hearing one side of the story, a lot of things have gone through my mind...
oh well how shd i start...
1st, love means affection to a someone....a lot of people find it real hard to say that word to the person he or she likes...it is kind of a mixed feeling inside someone...which is not easy to understand or wat-so-ever...and once you started to love a someone and devote ur life to be with that someone, make sure u do it well.
2nd, to love someone is to work hard, hence both parties should work hard to maintain a good relationship. homework has to be done by both parties. if there is only one person who does the homework then the relationship will not be built and be maintained. and if that persist for long, it will cause a lot of unecessary things to happen.
But i wonder what if both parties does the homework? then why does the word seperation exists?
3rd, when u have ald love that speacial someone of yours, i think that means putting on all ur trust on that speacial someone. you will have to trust that person, and the person has to trust you too. trust is one of the important part to built up a good future, a good relationship. Trust is the key to all harmony in this world. Trust is particularly important in a relationship. Just imagine living with a person which u have never trust. u will have nightmares, u will never live well. u live with fear. with regret. with hatred. with disappointment.
4th. every problem has its solution. sometimes it seems that some problems are difficult to solve and seems like it is the end of the world. yea i have to admit sometimes there are problems that are quite impossible to solve, it's like the problem is until the "unsolvable" stage. But 1st things that needs to be realised, why is there problems? problems are almost everytime caused by humans. Therefore, whoever started the problem is the only one who has the most power to solve it. Problems are most probably cause by human error and if that particular person does not want to fix the error then that means the problem will never be solved. However there might be a small amount of problem which is not caused by human...there might but i dont know...
therefore i have something to say to that person who has hurt my friend(s) so much...
If you want to love a someone, make sure that you dont hurt that someone that u love and loves you. Remember, to love someone, u have to make sure that that person that you love will be happy, will get the love that he/she should get. you dont need much, just some words or actions that show that you care is more than enough for that person. Trust, care is important in a relationship. Only if you can give a person ur everything and readily sacrifice for that someone, or else dont bother to start to love that person. because if there is no chance that u can sacrifice urself for that person that you love, you are not only wasting that person's time, but u are also wasting their energy, their effort on you. And the worst thing is by doing this you have hurt that person that loves you.... that is what i call selfish and unreasonable...
And remember do not ever ever cheat on the person that loves you. By doing that you are hurting that person more. Imagine the impact on the person when he/she realises that you have cheated on them for so long when they have put their complete trust on you. Dont be so selfish to hurt ppl around you. This is not the way to live a good life in the future. By cheating and cheating, it will not bring you to anywhere except misery and sadness. there is no point to love a someone if what you are doing is planning to cheat on the person non-stop.
To the person involved, when i hear the story from my friend, i have to say, i feel very angry about what you have done. We can see how much time and energy that person has spend on you. I feel that it is so not worth it for that person to treat you that well after what you have done to that person.
As a friend for that person, i feel that what you have done is not reasonable at all. therefore, i will hope that you will not do the same to others in the future. Maybe the situation now is very difficult to save, but i wish that in the future, you will learn the lesson and learn to change,
And to my friend(s),
I am not a good counselor. I never know how to solve problems and console people. i was too afraid to say anything. All i can do is to tell you that watever that happens you still have friends around you. yes, you might look down at me because of various reasons ie i dont really know how it feels or wat-so-ever. but i have to say, if i can i will help. But one again, i am not a good counselor and i dont know what i shd to to make you feel better. maybe its me that cannot understand you. Maybe i am not the right person for u to tell and sought comfort coz i dont know how to express. I am not good in expressing in actions. i cant express things verbally. all i can do is write and write and write and i am sure that one day you will read this and know what i am trying to say and do.
posted by {Wenying}© at
9:23 pm
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